Hung

Hung. Not a word I'm used to hearing, but the other day I actually heard it. I was innocently changing while my wife was reading and she looks over at me

"You're well hung..."
"What?"
"You actually have a big cock. You're really well hung. I hope you don't worry about your dick; you look great!"

This really caught me off guard. There was no way she was being honest with me - that or she was just being kind - but I know my body, and I'm not 'well hung'.

"Go take a look in the mirror... You look great!" 

I took a peek in the mirror, and I have to admit, I looked good.

"Do you think it looks different?"
"Totally... Must be because you've lost weight... Just thought I'd mention it... Love you."

As mentioned here, I'm a total grower (not a shower) and have locker room anxiety, but my according to my wife (and by my own admission) this day I looked bigger than I thought I was.

It dawned on me that I haven't really been fair about my flaccid state. I'm actually pretty average, but I get hung up on 'cold days'. That's not to say I haven't changed - I have! I'm positive things are bigger. I've gained some length over the last 6 months and it shows. Secondly, I stopped wearing brief-style underwear months ago. I found that briefs tended to really compress things so I was always 'crushed'. Since the underwear change, I am a lot fuller in my flaccid state, and tend to move quite a bit more, which means extra circulation and a bigger bulge. Thirdly, and this was a comment my wife made, it could be that I'm more confident, so my dick wants to hang out. She reasoned that when you're nervous or scared a man's dick tends to shrivel up. So, it seems reasonable to assume that being confident could do the opposite.

Either way, I'm happy!

How Big is a Big Penis?

A really great video... Think about it...

Searching for the Average Penis

In the past month this blog has gotten much more popular - we now see a few hundred unique visitors a day! 99% of the incoming traffic is from Google search, and 95% of the search terms refer to 'average penis' or 'average penis pictures'. It seems there is a lot of people interested in finding out just how big, or small, the average penis is!

I decided to search for 'average penis' as well and found that most of the search results were returned from sites that were selling penis enlargement products - pumps, pills and other assorted goods. (No surprise there) The other thing I found was that many of the penis enlargement sites seemed to have a altered the numbers - their 'average' seemed 'above average'. I've included some charts below:

The information I've been using for this site comes from the Lifestyles Condom study, as well as data from the Journal of Urology, the International Journal of Impotence Research as well as other assorted sources. Although the numbers to vary from study to study, the bottom line is that average penis size is about 5.7". (Read more about average penis sizes and distribution of sizes) What my searches also revealed was that almost all the sites that talked about the average penis (which coincidentally also sold enlargement products) seemed to have numbers that were much higher than any of the studies. According to these sites, the average penis was between 6.5" and 7" long, and a 7" penis is far more common than a 5.5" penis.

Don't believe it.

If you have a 5"-6" penis, and you discover that you are only 1" below the overwhelming average (as reported by penis enlargement sites), might you be inclined to spend $100-$300 to gain a 'mere' inch? Particularly when you've been promised 3" gains? Even the worst results will give you an extra inch and you'll finally be 'average'. Would you spend the money? Perhaps - but why? Because some site fed your insecurity and confirmed that you are 'small'? There is money to be made making you think you don't measure up. Think about it...

30 Day Challenge - Round Two

The last 30 days went really well! The routine was dead-easy to follow, only took a few minutes to complete, and yielded great results. As noted, I'm a still a little skeptical as I've been losing weight the entire time I've being doing PE.

So, I'm going to do another 30 days of PE. I'm switching my routine a little just to add variety, but the entire thing takes less that 4 minutes per session.

The routine is as follows:

• V stretch: 60 seconds
• Between-the-legs downward stretch* 60 seconds
• V stretch: 60 seconds
• 20 jelqs

*Between-the-legs downward stretch: Just like the under-the-leg stretch, you grab you penis reaching around the back of your leg, but rather than pulling down against the back of your leg, you pull straight back, close you legs and stand up straight. You'll find that you can arch you back and really increase the intensity of the stretch, but not lose grip.

Why I'm Still A Skeptic

In the last 6 months I've gained 3/4" on length, and a little more than 1/4" in girth. That's roughly an 1/8" per month, which seems totally reasonable for growth. I've maintained a fairly consistent routine, based on the best information I could find, and the results 'prove' that PE (penis exercise) works.

However...

The other thing I've been doing over the past six months is getting healthy. I've been hitting the gym and I've lost about 30+ lbs in the last 6 months. I'm looking great, and feeling great. So, it stands to reason that all of my gains have been because of weight loss. I have read that some medical professionals believe that for every 35lbs of weight lost, you gain an inch of visible penis. I've lost 30 lbs and have gained 3/4" - seems like they might be right! My hard-on looks much more impressive, and despite my grumblings, I look much better flaccid than I did before - both likely because I've lost weight.

However...

I made a point from the very beginning of this experiment to make sure I used the bone-pressed measuring technique when tracking my progress. I can tell you that I have certainly not lost a 3/4" slab of fat that has been sitting atop my pubic bone obstructing the ruler. So, does PE work, or was weight loss the key?

At this point, the only way to tell is to continue with my PE experiment. Either way, I've made gains, and I'm happy, but I can't say for sure that it's because of what I've 'gained', or what I've 'lost'.

30 Day Challenge - the results are in!

In 30 days I've gained a 1/4 inch! I'm now 6.5 inches! I can't believe it!

No seriously, I really can't believe it! I wasn't expecting any change, so to gain a full 1/4" is pretty unbelievable!

One of the things I've noticed is that it's really easy for my erection to fluctuate 1/4"-1/2" based on mood - there is a big difference between a boner, and a BONER! Each time I've measured I've made sure I'm in the mood to do so, as I've casually measured in the past and found that I'm smaller. As well, there is a difference between bone-pressed measurement, and non-bone-pressed measurements (as discussed here). The thing is, the bone-pressed measurements aren't really a functional measurements, they're a benchmark. So you sexual partner is never going to experience your 'full love potential', just part of it.

Functionally, I now measure 6 inches - easily, which is also a confidence boost. I don't have a 6 inch penis in certain conditions, I have a 6 inch penis at all time, and more if you measure correctly.

I think I'm going to do another 30 days and see what happens!

Average Penis: The Numbers Game

One of my first posts talked about the 'average' penis. (You can read about it here) I quickly touched on the data collected by the LifeStyle Condom people and created an image that illustrated the vast difference in the size of a penis in the average distribution. The average penis ranged from 4.9"x3.7" (length/girth) to 6.7"x5.7". The illustration does a great job showing just how different the average dick can be, but it doesn't really offer much of a metric for comparison. After I did a little research for my 'Grower not a Shower' comparison, I decided to take the same LifeStyle Condom data and create this handy chart.

Length: penis length in inches

Percentile: The percentile rank of a score is the percentage of scores in its frequency distribution that are the same or lower than it. 

Frequency: The average occurrence.

Bigger than you / Smaller than you: In a group of 100 people, how many are bigger/smaller than you.

Scenarios

• If you have a 6" penis (the gold standard), you are in the 73rd percentile, and on average only 9% of men have a penis as long as yours. In a group of 100 men, 27 men will have a penis larger than yours, and 73 will have a smaller penis.
• If you have a 5.75" penis, (a mere 1/4" smaller than the 6" penis) you are in the 48th percentile - 23% of men have a penis as long as yours - this is the most common length. In a group of 100 men, 52 men will have a penis larger than yours and 48 men will have a smaller penis. Based on this data, you are completely average.
• If you have a 4.75" penis, 96 of 100 men in the locker room are going to have a statistically larger penis than you, however, consider that on average 3% of men have the same size dick as you do, which is the same percentage of men that are 6.75" or longer. What this means is that while you have a smaller penis than most men, but the average man is only 3/4"-1" longer than you, and while it may seem like the rest of the men have huge cocks, they statistically have average dicks.
• Finally, lets look at the famed 8 inch penis. The quintessential porn-movie wang. Yes, they exist, and if you have one you are in the 97th percentile for length. Only 3 men in a locker room of 100 men will have a dick bigger than yours, and only 1% of the population shares your endowment.

Conclusion

I can't convince you to be happy with your dick if you're not, and I can't tell you to not want to be different than you are. What I can tell you is that you might be sweating some minor details for no good reason. If you have a 5" penis and you feel completely undersized, you need to consider that you're only 1/2"-3/4" away from having an average dick, and in a room of 100 guys, there are 7 guys with a dick 1/4" bigger than yours, and 13 guys with dicks 1/2" bigger than yours - so not every guy is WAY bigger than you, they're just slightly bigger.

That being said, thanks to penis exercises I've increased my penis length beyond the 6 inch ceiling, which has been a huge psychological boost. I know it's silly, it's obsessive and frankly useless, but the difference in 1/4"-1/2" has really changed my outlook on things. Knowing that now, I am simply saying if you can't change the way you are, realistically consider how you actually measure up, and truthfully consider if its worth the anxiety if gives you.

Grower, not a shower.

I've been spending a lot of time at the gym over the past 4 months. There are a number of things I don't like about my body, and I really want to change them. Going to a gym has been a great experience. While progress is slow, there is progress and I'm feeling more confident, looking better, and getting stronger.

It stands to reason that if you are working out at a gym, you're going to see a lot of dicks, and the experience can be humbling.

As noted here, I'm a grower - not a shower, and I hate it. I didn't realize that most of my insecurities were tied to my flaccid penis until I joined a gym. With a hard-on, I feel good about myself - no issues, but soft, I'm ready to hide under a rock. For some reason my self-worth depends of the non-verbal opinions of a room full of strange men. That doesn't make and sense, does it?

My first thoughts about what I was seeing in the locker room were depressing. Everybody seemed to have a bigger dick than me. I know I have a 'better-than-statistically-average' penis, so how is it possible that everyone is bigger than me when I know they cant be?

First of all, the men standing around waving their peckers are proud of their dicks and know they show well - but that is hardly all of the men. I realized that of all the men that were getting showered/changed, at least half the men kept their backs turned while changing, or covered themselves with a towel etc. I'm going to guess that  50% of men didn't care who saw them naked.

Secondly, according to what I've read, 75% of men are growers, and the rest are showers. A shower is a man who gains up to 150% in length compared to their flaccid state. A grower is a man who gains more than 150% in length. In my case, I gain about 250% (very common).

So, as a grower I am now about 2.5" flaccid. If I was a typical shower, and only gained 150% in length, my flaccid penis would be a out 4.3" long - which would look pretty good! My 'shower' size looks about average for the guys that I see at the gym.

Lets suppose there are only 100 men at the gym, and only 50 of them are comfortable being naked around other men only because they are comfortable with the size of their dick, or statistically have a bigger penis, we could assume:

• 30 of the men will have a larger penis than me based on the fact that my erection size puts me in the 65-70 cumulative percentile for length - 30+ of the men statistically have a bigger dick.
• If the average man (approx 5.7" in length) makes up about 30% of the gym population (as statistics suggest) and if 25% of these men are showers, than 8 men of average length at this gym should have a 4"+ flaccid penis, again larger than me.

So, of the 50 men who are comfortable with their bodies, 38+ of them will have a larger flaccid penis than I do, despite the fact that I am apparently in the top 65-70 cumulative percentile for length.

So, I was right! Almost everyone at the gym does seem to have a bigger dick than I do - but that's based on a number of factors that severely prejudice the sample I'm comparing myself to.

Bottom line, it's stupid for me to care, and it's stupid for me to compare. That being said, I don't think I'm the least bit more confident, but at least I'm not going to dwell on it.