Average Penis: The Numbers Game

One of my first posts talked about the 'average' penis. (You can read about it here) I quickly touched on the data collected by the LifeStyle Condom people and created an image that illustrated the vast difference in the size of a penis in the average distribution. The average penis ranged from 4.9"x3.7" (length/girth) to 6.7"x5.7". The illustration does a great job showing just how different the average dick can be, but it doesn't really offer much of a metric for comparison. After I did a little research for my 'Grower not a Shower' comparison, I decided to take the same LifeStyle Condom data and create this handy chart.

Length: penis length in inches

Percentile: The percentile rank of a score is the percentage of scores in its frequency distribution that are the same or lower than it. 

Frequency: The average occurrence.

Bigger than you / Smaller than you: In a group of 100 people, how many are bigger/smaller than you.

Scenarios

• If you have a 6" penis (the gold standard), you are in the 73rd percentile, and on average only 9% of men have a penis as long as yours. In a group of 100 men, 27 men will have a penis larger than yours, and 73 will have a smaller penis.
• If you have a 5.75" penis, (a mere 1/4" smaller than the 6" penis) you are in the 48th percentile - 23% of men have a penis as long as yours - this is the most common length. In a group of 100 men, 52 men will have a penis larger than yours and 48 men will have a smaller penis. Based on this data, you are completely average.
• If you have a 4.75" penis, 96 of 100 men in the locker room are going to have a statistically larger penis than you, however, consider that on average 3% of men have the same size dick as you do, which is the same percentage of men that are 6.75" or longer. What this means is that while you have a smaller penis than most men, but the average man is only 3/4"-1" longer than you, and while it may seem like the rest of the men have huge cocks, they statistically have average dicks.
• Finally, lets look at the famed 8 inch penis. The quintessential porn-movie wang. Yes, they exist, and if you have one you are in the 97th percentile for length. Only 3 men in a locker room of 100 men will have a dick bigger than yours, and only 1% of the population shares your endowment.

Conclusion

I can't convince you to be happy with your dick if you're not, and I can't tell you to not want to be different than you are. What I can tell you is that you might be sweating some minor details for no good reason. If you have a 5" penis and you feel completely undersized, you need to consider that you're only 1/2"-3/4" away from having an average dick, and in a room of 100 guys, there are 7 guys with a dick 1/4" bigger than yours, and 13 guys with dicks 1/2" bigger than yours - so not every guy is WAY bigger than you, they're just slightly bigger.

That being said, thanks to penis exercises I've increased my penis length beyond the 6 inch ceiling, which has been a huge psychological boost. I know it's silly, it's obsessive and frankly useless, but the difference in 1/4"-1/2" has really changed my outlook on things. Knowing that now, I am simply saying if you can't change the way you are, realistically consider how you actually measure up, and truthfully consider if its worth the anxiety if gives you.

Grower, not a shower.

I've been spending a lot of time at the gym over the past 4 months. There are a number of things I don't like about my body, and I really want to change them. Going to a gym has been a great experience. While progress is slow, there is progress and I'm feeling more confident, looking better, and getting stronger.

It stands to reason that if you are working out at a gym, you're going to see a lot of dicks, and the experience can be humbling.

As noted here, I'm a grower - not a shower, and I hate it. I didn't realize that most of my insecurities were tied to my flaccid penis until I joined a gym. With a hard-on, I feel good about myself - no issues, but soft, I'm ready to hide under a rock. For some reason my self-worth depends of the non-verbal opinions of a room full of strange men. That doesn't make and sense, does it?

My first thoughts about what I was seeing in the locker room were depressing. Everybody seemed to have a bigger dick than me. I know I have a 'better-than-statistically-average' penis, so how is it possible that everyone is bigger than me when I know they cant be?

First of all, the men standing around waving their peckers are proud of their dicks and know they show well - but that is hardly all of the men. I realized that of all the men that were getting showered/changed, at least half the men kept their backs turned while changing, or covered themselves with a towel etc. I'm going to guess that  50% of men didn't care who saw them naked.

Secondly, according to what I've read, 75% of men are growers, and the rest are showers. A shower is a man who gains up to 150% in length compared to their flaccid state. A grower is a man who gains more than 150% in length. In my case, I gain about 250% (very common).

So, as a grower I am now about 2.5" flaccid. If I was a typical shower, and only gained 150% in length, my flaccid penis would be a out 4.3" long - which would look pretty good! My 'shower' size looks about average for the guys that I see at the gym.

Lets suppose there are only 100 men at the gym, and only 50 of them are comfortable being naked around other men only because they are comfortable with the size of their dick, or statistically have a bigger penis, we could assume:

• 30 of the men will have a larger penis than me based on the fact that my erection size puts me in the 65-70 cumulative percentile for length - 30+ of the men statistically have a bigger dick.
• If the average man (approx 5.7" in length) makes up about 30% of the gym population (as statistics suggest) and if 25% of these men are showers, than 8 men of average length at this gym should have a 4"+ flaccid penis, again larger than me.

So, of the 50 men who are comfortable with their bodies, 38+ of them will have a larger flaccid penis than I do, despite the fact that I am apparently in the top 65-70 cumulative percentile for length.

So, I was right! Almost everyone at the gym does seem to have a bigger dick than I do - but that's based on a number of factors that severely prejudice the sample I'm comparing myself to.

Bottom line, it's stupid for me to care, and it's stupid for me to compare. That being said, I don't think I'm the least bit more confident, but at least I'm not going to dwell on it.

Measuring Your Penis

If you've ever measured you penis, you've probably discovered you can add a few inches simply by moving the ruler around the base of your cock. Depending on where you start measuring from, you can have an eight or nine inch lady killer despite your genetics. However, if you wan't to accurately and consistantly measure yourself, you should be using a bone-pressed measurement.

It's important to measure yourself in a consistent manner if you are interested in actually tracking your exercise progress as there is no point is spending a part of every day doing PE, if you can't actually measure if it's working. As well, the bone-pressed measurement is the 'standard', so if you are interested in seeing how you stack up against others, you better measure yourself in the same way.

To properly measure yourself, lay the ruler along the top of you penis, and push the ruler in against the pubic bone and the base of your dick. You will likely discover that you can gain 1/2" or more just by pressing the ruler firmly. This half inch gain isn't visible, nor is it usable, but it is considered part of the overall length.

Use this technique each and every time you measure your dick, and you'll be able to accurately track your progress.

Conversations: A confident dick

I have a number of close friends whom are very honest, enlightened, and don't shy away from sex-talk. They range from gay men, single ladies, happily married couples, and my wife. Anything and everything is fair game in the course of a conversation, and the opinions expressed here represent the collective wisdom of these people.

Just about everyone jokes about penis size. If someone drives a fast car, or works out a LOT, people kid that they must have a small penis. If a man is a real jerk, it must be a result of a small cock. Basically, if a man does anything to artificially inflate his confidence, he's got small junk.

So, it seems that a big penis equals confidence.

But who is it that is demanding a bigger penis? Is it your partner, or yourself? I have never had a complaint about my endowment, and none of my friends have uttered an unhappy word about their spouses' dicks. It seems that an average penis is just fine. I know that not all my friends are the same, yet no one is disappointed. The thing my friends do have in common is they are comfortable in their own skin. They are humble and quietly confident.

The spouses have all agreed that they'd rather a man who knows how to use what they've got, than one that does not. Sex isn't just pounding away like a pile driver, it's a lot more - it's an experience. Likewise, most spouses don't pull out a ruler to see how their man measures up, they measure their spouse by their skill.

A big penis does not equal good penis.

So if you're spending your free time increasing the size of your average penis, and doing nothing to improve your sex technique, is there really any benefit to you or your partner? You might feel confident about heading to the bedroom, but what happens once you get there? How confident will you feel if you don't have the skills?

My friends love their spouses, and their cocks. They really do. They make suggestive comments and playful gestures to their partners, and respectfully 'brag' to their friends - but we all know its not because any of them have record-breaking dicks, its because they have 'good' dicks and know how to use them. That being said, if the casual observer overheard these private conversations (and sometimes they do) they'd assume that everyone is packing a huge penis. I know I think that way! The way my friends talked about their partners made me assume everyone was hung like a champ - but it simply wasn't the case. 

So if entire group of different women (and men) aren't shy about playing-up the sexual ability of their spouses, despite the fact that they all have very average and different penises, and the average observer is going to assume that this praise is because these men must be well hung, what does this tell us? A confident man has a big penis - no matter what size it is.

A penis isn't only measured by its length and girth, it's also measured by attitude and confidence. I suggested this to my friends and everyone agreed - a man who gets naked and is self-assured (despite body type and endowment) and has a great, caring and passionate attitude in the bedroom, has a 'big cock' in the eyes of their partners. Their cocks look and feel big despite their size, and leave a definite impression. I understand this isn't going to be easy to accept, and there will always be exceptions to this rule, but a whole group of people who are having satisfying, confident sex MUST be doing something right!

So bottom line: you can stretch and jelq to increase the size of your penis, but if you really want a big cock, get confident, get caring, get passionate.

A confident man equals a big cock.

30 Day Challenge

Last week I decided to get back into a simple routine to see if even the most moderate exercises could again yield results. Last month I said:

Interest in Jelqing and Penis Enlargement has really dwindled. In the past month I haven't had the desire to devote time every day to the cause. I'm really happy with myself, and I don't see much reason to change.

This still holds true, but reviewing my own blog I realized that the skeptic in me was doubting my own results. Yes, I've made gains and yes, those gains have correlated with me doing stretching and jelqing exercises, however over the past 4 months I have also been improving my body and overall health through regimented exercise. (I will write on this another time - I think it's very important!) So I've wondered if losing a bit of weight etc. hasn't been the reason for my perceived gains. (Bottom line, this wasn't a very controlled experiment - too many variables)

So, for 30 days I will follow this this routine but I will only do 1 or 2 cycles.

Let's see what happens!

'Small' Update

Interest in Jelqing and Penis Enlargement has really dwindled. In the past month I haven't had the desire to devote time every day to the cause. I'm really happy with myself, and I don't see much reason to change.

That being said, I did take an opportunity to do another series of measurements. Length was the same at 6.25" (althout I felt as if it was smaller), but girth increased! I haven't bothered with girth as I wasn't worried about increaseing my thickness, but I was surprised to find that I have increased from 5.25" to 5.65"!

Now that I have a thickness measurement, we can do a volume comparison. When I started this my leangth and girth combined for a total volume of 187 cm³. As of today, my new total penis volume is 234 cm³ - an increase of 25%!

I have to say that looking back, I can't believe four months have passed since I started, and I can't believe my cock is 25% larger!

I have to wonder, how much bigger would I be if I had been actually been sticking to the routine for the last 6 weeks?

Routine is becoming... too routine...

It has been over two months since I started this blog and if you've been following along you'll know I've gained one half inch in penis length since I started. Naturally I'm pleased with this result, and my confidence has increased ten-fold. That being said, I'm not really obsessed with getting bigger as what I've got works very well, does ALL the tricks, and has an adoring fan. Thus, I've found my routine has suffered and I am no longer exercising like I did in the beginning. I've also changed my routine (again) to something simple. My hope is that routine (which takes about 8 minutes to complete) will help maintain current gains, and with any luck will make a small gains.

This is the routine I've been using for the last few weeks - probably 3-4 times a week. I do this cycle of 3 exercises 3 times.

• Under-the-leg downward stretch: 60 seconds
• 30 jelqs
• V stretch: 60 seconds